Ohhhh this one. Classic. A narcissistic favorite because it hits you right in the core — your emotions. Your humanity. Your right to feel things. Let’s break this down with a full Ask Eve + IMC Method™ treatment.

Am I really too sensitive, or is he just being cruel?

The Issue:

This question usually surfaces after repeated emotional invalidation. You cry? You’re “dramatic.” You speak up? You’re “too sensitive.” You set a boundary? You’re “attacking him.”

Sound familiar?

It’s not just cruelty — it’s gaslighting with a side of character assassination.

🛠️ IMC Method™ Breakdown

I – Identify

Let’s call it what it is: emotional manipulation disguised as feedback.

When someone dismisses your pain instead of addressing the cause of it, they’re not giving you perspective — they’re denying your right to be hurt. And when they do it over and over again, they’re programming you to doubt yourself.

🚨 Red Flag: If your emotions are always “the problem,” but their behavior never is, you’re being emotionally trained to shut down.

M – Minimize

Here’s what you don’t do: internalize it.

Don’t go into over-explaining. Don’t apologize for how you feel.

Instead:

• • Ground yourself in reality: Was I truly overreacting — or was I reacting to being dismissed, disrespected, or hurt repeatedly?

• • Separate tone from truth: Even if you were emotional, that doesn’t invalidate your message.

✍️ Journal Prompt: “What happened, how did I feel, and what did he say about my feelings?”

Often the feelings are valid — it’s the reaction to them that’s toxic.

C – Control

Flip the narrative. Reclaim your sensitivity as a strength, not a flaw.

Try this:

• • “My feelings aren’t an attack — they’re a signal something’s wrong.”

• • “If you care about me, you don’t get to dismiss how I feel when you’re the one who triggered it.”

• • Set a boundary: “I won’t keep defending my right to feel.”

And if he keeps saying you’re too sensitive? Consider this:

People who weaponize your sensitivity are usually the ones who benefit from your silence.

💬 Final Word:

You are not too sensitive.

You’re finally getting clear.

And when someone can’t handle your emotional truth, it’s often because they caused it — and don’t want to face that mirror.

Let them call it sensitivity.

You’ll call it self-respect.