“Why does he call me crazy when I confront his lies?”

Narcissistic Behavior Exposed: 

Classic gaslighting with a twist of projection.

This line — “He calls me crazy when I confront his lies” — might sound like it belongs in a romcom meltdown, but in reality, it’s a massive red flag flapping in the winds of emotional abuse.

What we’re looking at is gaslighting in full force, but with an added weapon: projection.

Let’s break it down:

What’s Really Going On Here?

When you catch someone lying and they don’t defend their actions, but instead attack your sanity, that’s not miscommunication — it’s manipulation.

He knows you caught him. You saw the text, heard the contradiction, noticed the timeline glitch.

But instead of fessing up or explaining, he pivots:

“You’re crazy.”

“You’re imagining things.”

“You’re always so emotional.”

“You have trust issues.”

Sound familiar? That’s gaslighting — the art of denying your reality so deeply and so consistently that you start second-guessing yourself.

But here’s the bonus toxic topping: projection.

He’s projecting his own instability, dishonesty, or guilt onto you. He feels crazy for getting caught — so he throws that word at you. You become the problem. You become the villain in the narrative he needs to survive your truth.

Why This Is So Dangerous

Being called “crazy” — especially during moments when you’re trying to speak up for yourself — can do deep psychological damage over time.

You start wondering:

• Am I overreacting?

• Did I make this up?

• Is this fight my fault?

• Maybe I shouldn’t bring things up anymore…

And that’s exactly the point. This tactic is meant to silence you. To make your instincts feel wrong. To train you that your truth isn’t welcome — or even real.

This is how gaslighting turns into self-doubt, which turns into dependency, which eventually leads to emotional paralysis.

IMC Method™ Response

Let’s cut the cord with this tactic — and use the IMC Method™ to get your power back.

Identify

This isn’t “passion,” “mood swings,” or a “communication style.”

This is emotional abuse. Period. Calling someone crazy when they bring up valid concerns is a textbook manipulation tactic.

🚨 Truth Bomb: If someone only sees your emotions as a weapon against them, they were never trying to understand you — only control you.

Minimize

Don’t argue. Arguing gives gaslighting oxygen.

Instead:

• Keep your responses factual and brief.

• Use phrases like “That’s not how I experienced it” or “I remember it differently.”

• Document things for your own peace of mind. Not to prove to them — but to prove to yourself that you’re not making things up.

✍️ Journal Prompt: “What exactly happened, and how did I feel in that moment — before I was told I was ‘crazy’?”

Control

This is where you take your power back. Not through convincing — but through clarity and boundary.

Examples:

• “I won’t continue this conversation if you disrespect me.”

• “It’s not okay to call me names, especially when I’m trying to communicate.”

• “If this keeps happening, I’ll need space.”

You don’t need their agreement to set a boundary. Boundaries are yours. They don’t require permission.

💬 Remember:

If you’ve been called “crazy” during moments when you were trying to stand up for yourself — hear me now: you are not crazy. You are perceptive. You are waking up. And someone calling you “crazy” doesn’t make it true — it makes it convenient for them.

The moment you stop defending yourself to a liar is the moment you start defending your peace.