The Narcissistic Therapist: Empathy for Sale

🛋️ When Therapy Turns into Control

You walk into therapy hoping for clarity, healing, and support.

But instead, you leave confused, judged, and emotionally foggy.

Welcome to the world of the Narcissistic Therapist — the most dangerous kind of healer.

Why? Because they exploit the very trust you’re told to lean into.

They don’t just hear your story — they rewrite it.

They don’t just hold space — they take over the room.

And they don’t want you healed — they want you dependent.

🧠 WHY THERAPY ATTRACTS NARCISSISTS

Therapists hold massive psychological power.

With very little oversight, they:

• Get access to your most private thoughts
• Can frame their opinion as fact
• Are rarely challenged once the “expert” title is given
• Can blur emotional lines under the guise of “connection” or “tough love”

And for narcissists? That’s not just a playground — it’s a throne room.

📎 Real Talk Example:

“My therapist kept suggesting I confront my abusive ex — even after I told her it wasn’t safe. She said I was just being ‘avoidant.’ I left more broken every week.”

🎯 STEP 1: IDENTIFY

When Help Feels Like Harm — It Probably Is

There’s a difference between discomfort in growth and discomfort from manipulation. A narcissistic therapist will make you feel:

• Drained
• Defensive
• Guilty for needing boundaries
• Unsure of your own truth

🚩 Red Flags to Watch:

• Frequent interruptions or talking over you
• Injecting personal stories that steal the focus
• Subtle mocking or minimizing your pain
• Suggesting you’re “too sensitive” or “resistant” if you question them
• Discouraging you from getting a second opinion or switching providers

📎 Example:

“She told me my trauma responses were just ‘dramatic coping.’ When I said I might take a break from therapy, she warned I’d ‘spiral without structure.’ That wasn’t support. That was control.”

🧯 STEP 2: MINIMIZE

You Don’t Owe Anyone Unlimited Access — Not Even a Therapist

If you’re in the room with a narcissistic therapist, you don’t have to wait until you’re fully ready to leave. You can start minimizing harm now.

Ways to Protect Yourself:

• Bring specific topics you want to focus on — and steer it back when they go off-track
• Avoid revealing sensitive info if it’s being used against you emotionally
• Take written notes after sessions to track manipulation patterns
• Set time or subject boundaries if you feel pressure to revisit trauma without consent
• Don’t explain if you decide to take space — your decision is valid

📎 Example:

“I started bringing a list of 3 goals for each session. Every time she veered into self-help platitudes, I redirected. Eventually, I walked away — with receipts.”

🛡️ STEP 3: CONTROL

Therapy Should Empower You — Not Entrap You

You don’t need to “earn” your therapist’s approval.

You don’t need their blessing to heal.

And you are allowed to outgrow them.

Ways to Reclaim Your Autonomy:

• Switch therapists — no guilt required
• Ask for your records and review what’s being documented
• Leave honest reviews on Psychology Today or similar directories
• Report unethical behavior to their licensing board
• Rebuild trust in the process with someone trained in trauma-informed care

📎 Example:

“My new therapist told me: ‘I’m not here to be right — I’m here to support you.’ I cried. Because for the first time, I believed it.”

⚠️ THE GASLIGHT GRID: THERAPIST VERSION

⚠️ WHY THEY GET AWAY WITH IT

Because therapy is private.

Because “helping professions” are rarely held accountable.

Because calling out a therapist feels like calling out your only ally.

But trust this:

You can outgrow your therapist.

You can walk away.

And you can still heal — stronger and smarter.

💬 FINAL WORD

You deserve more than insight.

You deserve integrity.

A real therapist:

• Explains
• Empathizes
• Empowers

A narcissistic one?

They exploit the wound they claim to heal.

But now you’ve got the antidote: awareness.

Author: Abuse No More